What irritates me

1) Number one on this list is without a doubt when people think they have me figured out and assume things about me. 100% of the time they’re wrong. It’s exhausting to deal with them and the box they so desperately tries to knock me into. Step back and let me do me. Thanks and f off. 

2) PEOPLE THAT SPEAKS FOR ME AND OVER ME. Damn Felicia, this convo is not a contest. Sit down and wait your turn, boo. 

3) People that disses feminism without knowing what we really stand for. We don’t hate men, we love them. We also love ourselves enough to know that our worth is equal to theirs, that’s it. 

4) Do your research before you involve yourself in an argument, for the love of Christ. 

5) When evil powers sends all idiots to the gym at your hour. 

6) Unauthentic people. Ever had a convo with someone that agrees with everything you said, but later found out that they don’t think that way at all? Or someone being nice to your face and talked shit behind your back? Life would be so much easier if honesty and openess were more valued than being liked. Who cares if you disagree with someone? That’s wonderful because you can actually learn something and/or impact their way of thinking. Plus, you know where you have each other!!

7) When a fuckboy pops out of nowhere and starts calling you his girl within two days of knowing you, then get offended when you don’t respond the way he wants you to. 

“Don’t you trust me?”

“I’m disappointed Maren, I thought we had something”

“Why don’t you want to come over babygirl?”

First off all, you behave like a child. Second, you’re too obvious. Third, nobody that respects and cares about anybody uses guilt to get what they want. Fourth, do not use those bf terms, you ruin them! Save that for someone you care about in the future, Gollum! Fifth and finally, _DO_NOT_ approach me, clovn. _DO_NOT_. 


People man. 

What’s next? 

I’ve been thinking. I really, really want to travel all over the world. I’m not talking a route where I shortly visit a few countries in Asia, America and the Middle-east. I’m talking every single one of the 196 countries in the world.

You might think I’m crazy or overly indecisive when it comes to what I’m doing with my life right now. However, I can’t help it. I’m too restless to stay in one place over a long period of time. I’m a gemini, it’s basically written in the stars, lol. I can’t really come up with a good enough reason not to go for it either.

Xoxo;*

Teetotaler? 

I’ve been thinking about this for a long time, we’re talking 2-3 years. Honestly, drinking can be a lot of fun but the consequences and risks from it aren’t worth it. Especially if you’re into fitness and want your muscles to grow. I know it’s different from person to person how you’re affected by the liquor and feel when you wake up after a night out. For me personally, it’s overall not worth it. The hangovers are so bad and I need to know that I have control over myself, if not I’ll get bad anxiety. 


In 2015 I almost didn’t drink at all, safe to say it was a good year for both my physical and mental health. I want to go back to that state of being. 

How do you guys feel and think about this topic? I’m genuinely curious about your personal experiences and thoughts on it. 

Have a great night!

Uphill -where the magic happens

When I am out running and I get to the part where the hills are at their steepest, I have one sentence that I always tell myself repeatedly until I get to the top; “This is where the magic happens. This is where the magic happens.” It is when you feel like dying, that the real changes appear. Both mentally and physically.

When you are so drained you feel like dropping to the ground gasping for air and surrendering to the lactic acid. That is where the magic happens. That is when you should find the inner strength to let the pain transform you into a better version of yourself. Similarly, this applies to every aspects of your life. If you ever feel unmotivated, drained, hopeless, uninspired and sad -tell yourself “this is where the magic happens”. In the end, when the pain leaves your body you are standing as a sharper, shinier, stronger and better diamond than you have ever been. Keep going.

Stress

Due to my finals, travelling, and working at an airport I have really been feeling the stress lately. At first I did not handle it very well, but after a while I think I managed to deal with it pretty good, in my opinion. Therefore, I want to share with you some of my tips and tricks that I learned to use during my stressful period.

  1. Breathe.

When you feel the stress sneaking up on you, try to focus on your breath. Many people, including myself start to breathe uncontrollably when their nerves kick in. What’s easy to overlook is that your uneven breath fuels your stress, and make you even more anxious. If you focus on breathing evenly and deep down your lungs, you will get the sence of being more calm and in control.

2. Think through.

This may seem difficult but take the time you need to sit down, breath and think through whatever stresses you. Changes are, it does not take as much time as it would to run around with many errands on your mind, not knowing what to take care of first.

3. Write it down.

Now that you have your breath and mind under fairly control, write that shit down! Make a plan over what needs to be done and when it needs to be done. Decide your first priority, thereupon,  your second priority, and so on. In that way, you get all factors on your mind out of your head and down on something physical that you can look at, which also have a calming effect.

 

4. Positive mindset.

You will go through what ever you are going through, a lot more uncomplicated if you choose to have a positive mindset. Choose to believe that everything will work out in your favour, as long as you are doing your best. If it does not, you will figure it out later. For now, focus on what needs to be done and deal with the outcome later. There is nothing you can do about it at this moment, except to work hard and take one step at a time. Admittedly, you can be your own worst enemy, or your own best helper. Breathe.

5. Be present.

If you live in the moment and take one task at a time, you will most likely find yourself achieving a much better result than if you did not. Indeedly, this is not easily done when you have a hundred things to do, a flight to catch and plenty of schoolwork, but trust yourself and your capabilities. As long as you arrive the right place at the right time, you are good to go. You have not spent half of your life on a schoolbench without a reason, you deep down know the answere to any task on your upcoming tests. As I said, trust yourself.

6. Get a grip.

Now go! Take charge and embark the point that stands on top of your list. Put on some hardcore music, make yourself a cup of coffee and check out the points as you complete them. It will give you more motivation as you go.

Good luck on what ever stresses you!

Much love. ❤

 

Help fight the dog meat festival

Hey sweethearts.

I have a serious subject I want to talk about today, -the dog meat festival in Yulin. I found out about this phenomenon a while ago, and I signed up and donated as fast as I could! I hope that you will do the same, because this “festival” is utterly tragic, and it makes me sick to my stomach. The fact that some people torture other creatures for entertainment, are so surreal to me. These animals do not need or deserve, to die or to get tortured, so please help them.

If you want to sign up to keep track of the festival, potential progress , and recieve news about it, sign up here.

Also, below you can read some facts about the festival, taken from the “Human Society International” homepage, where you can donate and help these poor animals.

“Please donate to help fight the dog meat festival in Yulin.

Right now in and around Yulin, China, thousands of dogs, many of them stolen pets, will be captured and transported over long distances under horrific conditions. There, they’ll be held in crowded cages without food or water until they are killed, all as part of an annual dog meat festival. Please make an urgent donation to help us campaign to shut this down.

This lifesaving work is only possible thanks to the generosity of caring people like you.

Please join our fight to shut down this brutal industry for good. Your donation will help dog meat farmers transition to humane livelihoods, support our local Chinese partners in intercepting dog meat traders’ trucks, fund care for confiscated animals, enable us to lobby for better laws, and so much more.

You can help stop this cruelty. Please give today.”

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Give yourself the compassion you deserve

There is no secret that a huge body pressure flourishes amongst us with all its dismay, as I write. Sadly, it is more common nowadays to constantly strive to be more or less of who you are, than to accept and allow yourself to simply just be you. It looks like people are constantly on a mission to get more edited, more perfect, more renovated, more injected, and less human. Less real. Admittedly, I have experienced this pressure myself, and I have also been striving at a certain level. At one point I remember considering getting silicone, luckily, I got over it in the end, and I never went too far in terms of unnatural interventions. One thing that helped me stop this vicious cycle, was the thought of how on earth I would be able to teach my future child to love itself, when I could not even do it myself.

With that being said, let me clarify that I am not pregnant, I have no children and I am not planning to get one in the nearest future. But when I get one and this matter becomes a subject, I will try to convey something similar to the following lines:

For example, if I take a moment to look at my body in the mirror as it is, not to find mistakes -this body is not an object of criticism. Rather to contemplate it genuinely, I can look at it as a map that tells many of my experiences and stories through life. Good and bad.

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The scar on my knee, is from when my father teached me how to ride a bike, after buying me a brand new bicycle for my birthday when I was a little kid, I fell numerous of times and bruised it, which eventually faded into the scar I have today. Thinking back at it now, it is a beautiful memory to have marked and be reminded of. The bags under my eyes are (not chanel) from many sleepless nights owing to insomnia, late night study sessions and night shifts of working, to save money to do what I desire. For instance, going on long roadtrips and other adventures with my friends, buying the newest makeup whom I thought I needed (but now use because I think it is fun and inspiring), and to afford taking further education. This can be seen as a reminder that I am tough enough to work hard and achieve what ever I want in life, they are well earned in other words. Further, I am starting to see hints of fine lines around my mouth and eyes, because I have lived a life filled with laughter. I can also see the indication of a little frown between my eyebrows, because I have been worried about how my life would turn out, whether I would make it through my teenage years, finish my education and figure my life out. I have also had my share of struggles and heartbreaks, but that is what makes me beautiful, interesting and worth knowing. Those experiences have given me stories, strength, wisdom and knowledge to bring to the table


I inherited my mothers pale skin and narrow lips, whom I was not particularly exited about in the first place, but learned to accept. No one has the right to tell me pale skin and narrow lips are not good enough. It can be just as pretty as tan skin and bold lips. There is no right or wrong way to be beautiful, because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. People also shift their view on what beauty is according to capricious trends, and they come and go speedy as the wind. My body conveys a tiny excerpt of my journey from being a newbie to becoming the proud young woman that I am today. Without injections or plastic surgery. Because I was not born to please anyones eyes, nor was I made to take criticism from anyone on my outlook. My body and everyone elses body are a machinery made to function, to live, and to manage all the obstacles we will be facing through living our life. My body is a revolution from thousands of years with generations improving abilities needed to handle life as it is, and have been for our species up to this date. My body is raw, real and magnificent. So is yours, and the older you get, the more experiences will be added to your body map. That is not ugly, or disgusting, or dangerous, or scary. It is stunning. Never let anyone convince you otherwise. You are too worthy. Too precious.

In addition, you have so much more to offer than what the body carrying you looks like. You were handed your body as an opportunity to live life to the fullest, so use your money to grow rich on experiences, paint more life to your body map to make it worth reading, and use this opportunity for what it is worth. You are a soul that has a body, not a body that has a soul. Yes, there is a difference.

Practice self love, not only for yourself but also for your future or existing child(ren). That may be a bigger motivation to do so. Try to be the person that your inner insecure child needed -and your descendant will thank you.